Monday, April 13, 2015

Judgment goals vs Development goals


Why is she so fat? Why aren’t I as pretty as her? You know?! I’m prettier and skinnier than her and she is going into a field that makes no money, he’s an idiot and he is probably now dating a slut! I’ve heard these judgments all day long and I feel so bad that I haven’t said anything to try and pick people up. Playing on a girl’s softball team we know pretty much everything about each others lives. A girl on the team is experiencing a breakup where the boy left her for another girl at his college. Instead of trying to talk to her (now ex) boyfriend she sits there completely bashing this girl that he knows nothing about. Calling her all kinds of names and judging her, but she knows nothing about her. Maybe she is a nice girl, who just got caught in the wrong situation at the wrong time. Girls compare each other to other girls all the time. Instead of so many judgmental goals I think people should focus on developmental goals. If girls wanted to compare themselves to others, they should make a change to improve themselves in the process. If I were to call a girl skinny, then I should be trying to improve myself by working out or trying to get into better shape. If a girl were smarter than you, try to improve yourself by reading more books or to challenge your mind and expand your horizons more.  Think about how improved the world would be if judgment wasn’t the key focus, but developing yourself into a better person was.

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